We don’t have forever…

Recent events in my family have forced me to look at life more closely. Newborn lives are winding up bringing joyful sound, while old lives are winding down bringing a quiet reflection.   The result of these events is a challenge…. A life challenge.

The challenge is …. Don’t waste timewe don’t have forever!


Say what you want, but say it well,

Do what you have always wanted to do .. and do it now (with class).

Focus on what’s important in life
(it’s the only one you get).

Take the time to make it a good run…

It’s more fun that way….

In the end I picture myself…………………

….sliding feet first through the gates of heaven shouting…

“I used every bit of time you gave me, nothing left in the bucket” Thank you Sir!!!

Then in my dress blue uniform, I’ll stand tall and look good…

And if the Army or the Navy should ever look on Heavens scenes ..

They will see the gates are guarded by the United States Marines.. 

marines gates


It’s Spring, time to have a serious talk with myself…

It’s spring in New England and snow is still falling…Mother Nature is at her cruelest in March.  My buddy in Virginia has already mowed his lawn twice while mine has a solid 8 inches of snow pack.  Really???   Come on Spring!

The winter base building phase is over. Spring is here and its time to switch to the build phase, beginning next week. I’m 10 weeks out from my 1st race. My daily routine has taken a back seat to a series of family obligations. Wait…that’s not really true.. I let myself use family issues as the excuse for not sticking to my daily routine and weekly schedule planning.  I’m feeling regret…

“Athletes that want to be fit must suffer one of two things: the pain of a daily fitness routine or the pain of regret.”

So what’s the big deal? What have I lost other than a day here and there?

“Days are expensive and there is no refund. When you spend a day you have one less day to spend. So make sure you spend each one wisely.”

Ok, starting tomorrow Sunday…I will plan out my weekly training goals/schedule, get prepared the night before for the next day and stay on track as much as possible. It will take discipline and focus. Why do you think discipline is going to help you?

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.”

You know this like the back of your hand. Disciplined daily schedules and workouts can get stale…   you know they will …. What can I do to keep things interesting?  Get creative.. shake it up, break it up… make it unusual…..

“If you are not willing to risk the unusual with your training routine, you will have to settle for the ordinary in your performance.”

I always seem to start out with a lot of motivation …..but I have learned that it comes and goes. It’s the habit that really makes the difference ….   Creating that daily routine makes the habit.

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going, and a habit is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day.”

OK …I’m feeling better now Thanks…..

The people you surround yourself with…

Friends, co-workers and family can influence us in many ways. Some are subtle and others happen without us even realizing it. Why should we care? John Rohn a motivational speaker is quoted as having said: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most of your time with.”


So who are your Fab Five? Are they five that you feel should average into your life?

Recently, I had the occasion to spend time with two of my Marine Corps buddies Steve and Mike. Over dinner Steve said “You know we have been friends for over 40 years now”. To be honest it had not occurred to me that we were even that old….as whenever we get together images us as young Marines roll like a movie in my head.

Why have we keep each other in our lives so long…when other friendships have come and gone?  I believe Rohn’s quote has something to do with it. These guys are part of my life’s equation…they bring different qualities that help to sum up who I am today.
The biggest variable in the sum of my life however, is my wife Abby. She is my wife, friend and love.  I am amazed at the ways she influences me every day. My feet would be riddled with holes if not for her… I am blessed to have her in my life.
There are many positive and talented people out there to surround yourself with…. so it would be very difficult for me to settle with just a specific select group. So I’ll take the liberty to modify Rohn’s quote some and suggest the following modification:

“You are the sum of the people you surround yourself with”  And in the words of the Most Interesting Man in the World “Choose Wisely My Friends”…


Post Truth Period



lies1Some say that we are in a period where telling lies is as common as telling the truth. 


If we are truthful about it we would agree that all humans lie…some suggest we are pre-disposition to exaggeration, omission and misrepresentation ….  Studies suggest men lie more about themselves and woman tend to lie more to protect or defend others…. Lies come in all flavors….white, bold faced, whiteliesvicious, blatant and even some that sound religious such as heavenly deceptions.

Fake news items surface everyday on TV, over the internet and in our local newspapers which has us wondering if what we are being told is a truth, near truth or an out and out lie.

lies2I believe that truth is a collaborative exercise ……for something to be true to me I have to be willing to believe what I am being told….Note: this doesn’t necessarily make it true but it feels true to me.  So if that is the case for all of us, what do you believe as truth and why??

When the rumors circulated about Lance Armstrong, I chose not to believe what was being said because I liked Lance and admired his achievements.  So I was not as ready as others to believe the reports.  When Bill Clinton spoke to the nation during the Monica Lewinsky scandal I feel betrayed by him, so I chose not to believe a word he was saying… and to this day I don’t believe a word he says.

So what is the point?  I guess knowing we have a part in determining what is true to us … gives us some measure of control over what we will believe. 

If we find ourselves readily believing everything one person, party, news source is reporting then we should examine why… ask ourselves …is this something I want to believe and has it passed our lie detector filters?  Lie detector filters are only useful if the person is in front of you.  Shifty eyes, sweating, twitching, etc., are unreliable in today’s electronic information medium.  So what can we use to decipher the truth???  I think our core values can be our best assets as our truth meter.  Identifying and understanding your values is a challenging and important exercise. Your personal values are a central part of who you are – and who you want to be. By becoming more aware of these important factors in your life, you can use those help you navigate through the sea of untruth we witness every day.  If find yourself getting upset about something in the news that feels untrue, ask yourself what is it about the topic that has pressed your buttons…. What has caused you to not believe what is being reported?  Some of life’s decisions are really about determining what you believe. When many issues seem unreasonable, it’s helpful and comforting to rely on your values – and use them as a strong guiding force to point you towards the truth. 

Believe it or not…the truth often lies within..




I knew him not…..

handsI know more about him than of him, long gone before I grew

Never really had a chance, to show him what I could do

I miss someone I never had, which seems a silly thing to most

Tried to be a shining son to the memory of a ghost

To wish for things I can never have, will only make me sad

For my life is rich with family,  that does not include a Dad.

Ju Ju and the Flying Elvis

flyingelvisI have come to understand that I am superstitious… I get it from my mother…. no fish, birds or open umbrella’s in the house, pearls are bad luck and the list goes on…no reason given, they just are…. bad Ju Ju, but it helps to know good acts bring good Ju Ju…

and so as a 62 year old man I spent the day yesterday doing things to bring on good Ju Ju for the New England Patriots…

If you don’t know what Ju Ju  is it means energy; the experience of positive and negative forces all around us that charge our lives and shape the day.

It’s that thing when you enter a space and get that “off” feeling in your gut telling you it’s time to leave, or it’s that good feeling when you stop to help someone everyone else passed by. It’s the powerful stuff that we pick up on everywhere when we let our intuition take the reins.

We can give it, receive it, create it, share it, leave it behind or pass it on.

We need good Ju Ju.

Despite the fact that each day I feel blessed to be on this side of the grass…. my Ju Ju reserves can still get a little low from time to time. Life gets messy and during the 1st three quarters of the Super bowl game last night my Ju Ju grew dim. and I know it needed to change.

So to generate good Ju Ju, I talked to Tom Brady…screamed at Tom Brady and pray for Tom Brady…as if he were my son.   I do this because almost every time he comes through to re-ignite the Patriots Nation and fill us with the best Ju Ju of all Patriots Pride. It’s the stuff that makes our Flying Elvis logo (look at the Pats logo and you will see the face of Elvis Presley)  fly… Elvis was singing Heart Break Hotel for Atlanta….and “It’s Now or Never” for New England…

I am a happy boy today…. The New England Patriots are the 2017 Superbowl Champs…Now that some good Ju Ju……Thank you ….Thank you very much!